What is hope? The world defines hope as wishful thinking, hoping that something will happen, and leads us to believe it is something we can conjure up. But the Bible says hope is "confident expectation" and talks of both an eternal hope and a hope for the "here and now". Hope is...
"Faith is like a fountain. Both rise up from the inside and freely flow out making a pond of blessing around you. Both create far-reaching ripples in your life, in your circumstances, and in the lives of the people around you." (Quoted from Junk or Joy)
We all have faith. The...
There are different kinds of fear such as the adrenaline producing fear warning of danger and causing the fight or flight response, Fear of the Lord, fear from ongoing trauma, and a pervasive, underlying fear that many people live with today. Adrenaline producing fear is for our protection...
Not a pretty picture is it? Yet that is reminds me of worry in my head. "Worry is like eating worms. It wiggles and squirms in your head squishes and squeezes your heart, and coats all your thoughts and actions with fear. Worry recycles "what ifs" like worms recycle...
Our society today wants to blame someone else for bad choices because it is certainly less painful than taking the consequences for them. If we can't find someone convenient to blame, we often blame God because everything that happens is His will. Right? Wrong! It may be a...
In last week's blog we discussed building healthy, picket fence boundaries to help choose and balance relationships. It is a picket fence because the spaces let your heart breathe in the necessary good things and the boards keep out the bad, hurtful things in life. This is a healthy...
In their book titled Boundaries, Cloud and Townsend define a boundary as a fence around your soul. In my book, Offense, Get Off My Fence, I talk about it being a white picket fence around your heart. It is a picket fence because the spaces let your heart breathe in the necessary good...
People are often not who we think they are, so how do you know who you can trust? In the coaching class, Raise Stable Children in an Unstable World, there is a lesson on planning effective boundaries like a picket fence. In the parable of the talents in Matthew 25, Jesus promoted...
Last weeks blog post was on common lies about our identity. Today I want to write about the truth about our identity. It is a form or pride to put yourself down and degrade who you are. It is also pride to “think more highly of yourself than you ought.” Humbleness is...
After recognizing offense and the lies, vows, or judgments we have made as a result of our experiences; forgiveness is the next step and the key that Jesus gave us for our healing. We often don’t want to forgive the people who hurt us or tempted us to believe the lies that have...
One of the most basic human needs is LOVE. It has been scientifically shown that children can die from a lack of love and touch, even when their physical needs are taken care of. Our childhood experiences limit, define, and shape our definition of love and without a true definition of...
There are many forms and severity of trauma, but basically trauma can be categorized as Type A Trauma which is the ABSENCE of the necessary good things and Type B trauma which is the PRESENCE of harmful things.
Type A traumas can include a whole continuum of things like:
- Not being...
